I Love You So Much...

My love, How I miss you!
I miss your "I love you so much"..
Your love is so sweet, so gentle, so tender
Just beautiful - just like the sender.
My love for you is so true and so so deep
Our love will last forever..
I love you more each and every day
I love you and only you..
Moro mou - in every way
I love you
In your arms is where
I always want to be
Me pleasing you
and you pleasing me
I want to be touching you -
skin to skin
Moro mou - I have loved you
since the beginning..
Never again will you long for love -
You will have me,
the man you love..
who will love you for life..
I want to be your everything
I want to be what makes your heart sing
I love you so much - I want to shout it out..
Forever hold me in your heart
as I am holding you in mine -
I have from the very start.
I love you SAM,
Your Rob

Mulligans (Part2) - Forbidden Love

Mulligans (Part1) - Forbidden Love

OVERCOMING SHYNESS

If you’re shy, you know the discomfort such bashfulness can bring. When you must step out of the shadows and speak up, you may experience a racing heart, dry mouth, and butterflies in the stomach. What others seem to take for granted can become a miserable experience for you.All sorts of social situations can trigger a bout of self-conscious shyness. Some people find themselves not speaking up for themselves at work. Others find it makes them anxious to introduce themselves to others at a bar or the gym. Or they avoid social situations all together, becoming isolated at home. And more people fear public speaking engagements than fear snakes or spiders.
All of us find ourselves a little shy at times, especially if we’re introverted by nature. But when the problem starts to really interfere with the enjoyment of day-to-day life, therapists talk about the problem as social anxiety. Well-meaning friends may tell us to get over it, buck up and “just do it” when faced with a situation that causes us embarrassment. Sometimes that works, but often it’s too simple an answer. If we’re not prepared, we may put ourselves in a situation where we’re overwhelmed with anxiety, only to find that all our self-doubts rise up like dragons and overwhelm us.

JUST SOME HOT MEN

Hot Redhead --

Man, those redheads just make me so fucking horny! Wouldn't you love to slide your mouth over that thick, pale cock and land your nose in that flaming red bush to get a real good smell...

Yes Sam, You and Me --

You and I someday
forever we will be,
In the arms of each other,
in love and free.
All fears put away,
All tears gone astray.
I will be in your arms
and nothing will harm me
today.
When I dream of you
I am happy,
Nothing seems
to be in my way,
I am with you
and want it no other way.
I love you so much,
my Sam
With all of my heart
and I have my love...
right from the very start --
Your Rob My Sam

Gay Relationships: Dating For The 40+ Gay Man: Seven Steps To Success - Part 1

Dating can be hard enough at times, but the situation can be made that much more challenging for those single gay men who represent the age 40 and up crowd.In a society where youth and beauty are highly valued, many middle-aged men report feeling segregated and unappreciated in dating pools, making it difficult to meet and sustain relationships with potential dating prospects.

The problem can seem even more compounded in the gay community in which the emphasis on youth and brawn is amplified, causing many mature gay men to feel undesirable and like outsiders within gay circles. They feel unwanted and that their age hinders them and limits the pool of men available to them for dating, particularly when they report being rejected by men in their own cohort for younger guys.

Ageism, or discrimination against someone because of his age, plagues many different layers of our culture—and it also can and does rear its ugly head in the gay dating world. This “over-the-hill” mentality is very damaging, robbing us of the opportunity to really experience life, take risks toward goals, and make the most of what we have (if we let it!). This case is illustrated in the comment of a former 29-year old client: “I turn 30 later this year and then I officially am old! I’ll never have a boyfriend now! I feel like my life is over and it’s all downhill from here on out!”

It is hoped that this article will prove all that wrong and provide you with some tips for maximizing your midlife dating success! While the reality is that ageism does exist and there are obstacles in the dating jungle (at any age), these hurdles do not have to dictate the outcome of your love-life. In actuality, your stage-of-life puts you in an advantageous position to conquer this adversity. With your life experience and history, you probably have a greater repertoire of coping skills, resiliency, sense of self, assertiveness, self-esteem, and an expansive support system and resources. This will take you far and makes you a very good catch!

So let’s push aside those fears that you won’t be able to attract someone after you reach a certain age. Let’s destroy that stereotype that all older gay men are unhappy, lonely, and camp out at the local strip bar every night “trolling.” It’s nonsense! YOU make your life what you want it to be and “you’re only as old as you feel”, as the “old” saying goes. Midlife is sexy! And here are seven tips to help boost your dating success as a 40+ single gay man to enhance your readiness for a relationship!

STEP 1: CREATE YOUR VISION

No matter what your age, this is the most critical first step. It’s very important that you take the time to develop a clear and vivid image of who you are and what you want out of your life, including your dating life. Are you seeking a long-term relationship and a life partner or just casual dating? What does the rest of your life look like? What would your ideal partner be like and how would your relationship function?

Your answers to such questions will help give you the direction you need to accomplish your goals, giving you a measuring stick to keep you on track and assess your status. How much of a gap exists between your idealized vision and your current reality?

Do the work that’s needed to bridge that gap and begin the process of identifying your needs, differentiating between those that are negotiable and non-negotiable so you can more adequately screen future dating partners for their suitability with your vision.

STEP 2: BEFRIEND THE MIDLIFE CRISIS

Erik Erickson is best known in the psychology field as having developed eight stages of psychosocial human development that we all pass through as we age through the lifespan. Every age group has its own unique challenges and developmental tasks to conquer before being able to successfully move on to the next stage. According to this theory, such hallmarks that exist for the middle-aged man include nurturing close relationships, career management, household maintenance, creativity, and commitment to family and the community. Having a sense of purpose and passion and being able to impact the world with one’s talents is a central feature.

As gay men, many of our developmental tasks were skipped or neglected because of our retreat to “the closet” in coping with the homophobic society we live in. Successful integration of your gay identity into your sense of self allows you to then address those developmental tasks that were suspended until you were ready. So the next step for you is explore any developmental tasks that still require mastery from earlier years and start working at them. For example, a middle-aged man who comes out later in life will likely experience the adolescent tasks of exploring his sexuality and practicing man-to-man relationship skills, causing him to feel like a teenager again. Perfectly normal in gay male development, no matter what your age!

And then the next step for your success is to discover something that you can do that will give you a sense of meaning and purpose and begin to express that. Find your calling and live it out. This will be your legacy of sorts and is a great way to solidify your identity. This will help anchor you during your dating trials and can be one of the top ways of meeting a compatible partner. Your passion and “zest for life” will be magnetic and you’ll likely be meeting others with similar interests and philosophies in the venues you pursue.

The illustrious “midlife crisis” strikes those men who experience anxiety and apprehension at realizing they’ve lived half their lives and begin to question and contemplate what they’ve accomplished in their lives thus far, fearing that not much time is left to live their visions. Midlife is the perfect time to revisit your original vision and tweak it so it more accurately reflects who you are now and the man you’d still like to become. Reframe this time in your life as a time for growth and opportunity, not something to be abhorred. You have control over shaping your life into something spectacular and fulfilling!

Boston Gay Pride Week 2009

Friday June 5th
12noon
Flag Raising
City Hall Plaza, Boston, MA
10pm
Boston Guerrilla Queer Bar - Pride Edition 1 of 2
Venue TBD, stay tuned!
Saturday June 6th
10am-5pm
Pride Day at Faneuil Hall
Faneuil Hall Marketplace, Boston, MA
10pm
Project: ROCK with Project 10 East
Kingston Station, 25 Kingston St, Boston, MA

Sunday June 7th
AIDS WALK BOSTON! **Wicked Gay Blog HOT pick
3:30-7pm
Pride T-Dance for Seniors
Holiday Inn, Brookline, MA
Monday June 8th
7pm
Coming Out Swinging with Beantown Softball League
Boston Common, Boston, MA
Tuesday June 9th
8pm
Linda Eder Sings Judy Garland at Boston Pops
Symphony Hall, Boston, MA
Purchase tickets which will include a complimentary pre-concert hors d'oeuvres reception at Symphony Hall at 7pm.
Wednesday June 10th
7pm
Pride Idol Finale
Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Avenue, Boston, MA
9pm
Pride Kick Off @ Latino Night
Boston's longest running gay latino night
Rumor night club, 100 Warrenton St, Boston, MA
Thursday June 11th
7pm
King and Queen of Boston Pride Pageant
The Estate, 1 Boylston Place, Boston, MA
10pm
Glamlife
The Estate night club, 1 Boylston Pl, Boston, MA
10pm
OPTIONZ: 3rd Annual Multicultural Pride Party from QWOC+ Boston and MadFemmePride
Umbria, 295 Franklin Street, Boston, MA
Friday June 12th
6pm
Boston Dyke March
Boston Common, Boston, MA
9pm
Official Dyke March After Party
Milky Way at the Brewery, 284 Amory St, Jamaica Plain, MA
10pm
Boston Guerrilla Queer Bar - Pride Edition 2 of 2
Venue TBD, stay tuned!
Saturday June 13th
10am
32nd Pride Interfaith Service
Old South Church, Boylston St & Dartmouth St, Boston, MA
info@prideinterfaith.org / 617-517-5885
12noon
Boston Pride Parade **Wicked Gay Blog HOT pick
Boston, MA
12noon
Boston Pride Festival
City Hall Plaza, Boston, MA


1:30 pm-7pm

Annual Street Dance & Block Party **Wicked Gay Blog HOT pick & photo shown above!
Chandler & Berkeley, Boston, MA (Fritz)

2pm
Cycle for Pride!
City Hall Plaza, Boston, MA
2-7pm
Esme Women's Block Party
1 Boylston Place (across from the Boston Common), Boston, MA
9pm
LUSH: Pride Party Performance Show
followed by Second Saturday Dance Party
With The Femme Show & LOGO's comedienne Jennie McNulty
Machine night club, 1254 Boylston St, Boston, MA
10pm
Epic Saturday
Roxy night club, 279 Tremont St, Boston, MA
Sunday June 14th
12noon-8pm
Stuart Street Block Party
Stuart Street, Boston, MA
12noon-7pm
Jamaica Plain Block Party
Perkins Street, Jamaica Plain, MA
10pm
Hot Mess Sunday - Official Closing Party
Underbar, 279 Tremont St, Boston, MA
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Tuesday, June 2, 2009